Anus and rectum are the parts of human body very sensitive with a large number of nerve endings, that is why including anal play into one's sexual life doubtlessly can add to the spectrum of sensations. Men can find anal sex pleasurable both as insertives - for the anus is usually tighter than vagina, and as receptives, due to the high sensitiveness of the prostate (also called the male G-spot or "P-spot"), while some women can reach orgasm from indirect stimulation of the vagina, in particular, the G-spot and the internal clitoris, and even from penetrating the partner with a strap-on dildo or some other similar object (in heterosexual couples, this is called pegging).
So how to have anal sex so that it is safe and satisfying for both partners?
First of all, this kind of sexual interaction should be consensual. People can feel different about having anal sex both in terms of one's own boundaries based on the social attitude towards it and because of the peculiarities of body structure. The feeling of pain that appears during penetration indicates that something is wrong, so anal sex should not be forced. Anyway, it is advised to take time and start slowly. A massage of the thighs, perineum, buttocks or anus can help relax and “tune” both partners in for anal sex play. It also allows to learn one's body discovering the sensations experienced through various types of stimulation, e.i., stroking, applying pressure, oral contact, touching or penetrating with fingers and other body parts, toys or the penis. A variety of anal sex toys can bring yet new sensations.
At this stage it is important to ensure anal sex safety. This concerns both using protection to avoid transmitting STDs and other infections, as well as being careful not to injure the delicate tissues of the rectum and lining of the lower bowel. Toys should be smooth, fingernails clean and round, and lubricant sufficient and latex-compatible. Using condoms, dental dams or rubber gloves is highly recommended if the anal sex partner's infection status is vague. To provide for better hygiene prior to anal sex it is advised to go to bathroom, wash up thoroughly or even have an enema.
A comfortable position, trusting atmosphere and arousing foreplay are all likely to get partners in the right mood for experimenting with anal sex and enjoying it. |